Every year in America, about 2.3 million couples are married (according to NVSS or National Vital Statistics System). That is a lot of “I do’s”. In 2014 alone, there were 2,140,272 weddings in the US! (excluding Georgia and Louisiana.) That’s about 6,200 weddings a day. 6,200 couples, every single day, are pledging themselves to God and to the other person.
But the sad fact is not many of them will keep their vows. The NVSS also tells us that in the year 2014 there were 813,862 divorces/annulments. Just for that one year! Another statistic says that the average length of a marriage is 8 years. How pathetic! So much for “as long as ye both shall live”. Maybe people are just dying early? Nope.
So why are these statistics so glaring? Why is the modern family structure failing?
Reason #1 the modern family structure is failing: We’ve gotten so far from God’s principles, that we’ve become okay with divorce.
When couples go to the marriage altar, they usually don’t plan on getting a divorce. But that doesn’t mean they are against the idea if things got bad enough. Satan has convinced our society that divorce isn’t that bad- that it’s an option. Society as a whole now believes that divorce is just a part of life when things don’t work out. It’s become normal, okay, and praise worthy in some sick cases. Society has drifted so far from biblical values that this is where we are now. Heaven help us! God does not will that any family get divorced, and for Christians, it shouldn’t even be an option at all!
Malachi 2:16 “For the Lord, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away…”
“Putting away” is the subtle way that the hebrew people would refer to divorce. God hates divorce!
Matthew 19:6 “Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”
“Twain” means two and to “put asunder” means to separate. When a couple gets married, they become one. They are a team together. They have made a covenant with God that should never be broken. Divorce should never be an option and should be ruled out from the start.
Reason #2 why the modern family structure is failing: Children are growing up without a Father figure.
Lets hear some facts about our fatherless generation and what it has created.
- 43% of children in America live without a father. (US Department of Census)
- 63% of all youth suicides come from broken homes. (US department of Health)
- 71% of high school dropouts are fatherless. (National Principles Association Report)
- 85% of all youth in prison are living without a father figure. (Texas Department of Correction)
These statistics should be frightening to us.
DISCLAIMER: Yes, all of these children are responsible for their own actions and cannot justifiably blame anyone for the consequences. BUT, if families would get it together and realize that there is a problem and that divorce is scarring the children, maybe the stats would be lower. The facts remain.
Children need fathers. There’s no more blunt of a way I could put it. God has placed the father in the family to teach responsibility, strength, morals, values, and work ethics. The father is also responsible for providing for the family. No father means that Mom has to work, which means that her job as a mother is left vacant and wanting as well. God created the Father and Mother to do play distinct roles in the responsibility of raising children. If Dad is doing his own thing, divorced or not, the children suffer.
Reason #3 why the modern family structure is failing: Satan has specifically targeted the family.
Satan wants to “kill, steal, and destroy” everything good that God created. The family is an extremely special entity that God designed to bring so much good and happiness. So of course Satan hates it!
Satan wants to distract the fathers, divorce the parents, tempt the children, and ultimately destroy their success and happiness. Satan has three main ways to do this.
- Getting the couple out of church.
- Encouraging them to remain bitter about a problem or situation. (Keep us on edge and fighting).
- Distract, distract, distract.
Satan has no new tricks, you guys! He’ll use one or all of those tactics to ruin the family. And if he doesn’t succeed in divorce, at least he has them distracted from doing what God would have them to do. His ultimate goal is to destroy us, but if he can’t do that, he would rather render us useless to the kingdom of God.
Remember that Satan wants to destroy you! He goes about “as a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.” 1 Peter 5:8. If Satan can get you divorced or distracted, he can get your kids. If he can get your kids, he can get the families of future generations and so on and so forth. Be vigilant!
Recap! There are 3 reasons that the modern family is failing:
- We’ve gotten so far from God’s principles, that we’ve become okay with divorce.
- Children are growing up without a Father figure.
- Satan has specifically targeted the family.
Our society needs to come back to God and FAST. The family structure will always be a target, but we CAN avoid destruction by sticking close to God and His principles for marriage and the family. The fastest way to change the world is to change yourself! So get fast hold of God before your married and have children. If you’re already there, pray for your family and lead your children towards God and not the distractions that Satan would have you focused on.
James 4:7 KJV- “Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.”
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